R.E.A.L.
REPAIR
Now Available
When Connection Breaks:
Brain-Based Tools to Rebuild
Trust and Make
Repair Possible
Janene Kingsley, LMFT #152376
About the Book
What if the real problem in relationships is not conflict itself, but not knowing how to repair when connection breaks?
In R.E.A.L. Repair, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Janene Kingsley offers a practical, brain-based roadmap for understanding rupture, rebuilding trust, and becoming more honest, grounded, and effective in the relationships that matter most.
This book helps readers understand why they get defensive, shut down, escalate, assume the worst, or struggle to stay present when hurt enters the room. Instead of generic advice to “communicate better,” it offers a clear framework for what real repair actually requires.
With relatable examples and practical guidance, this book can help readers
- Understand their triggers and protection patterns
- Communicate with more clarity and less reactivity
- Repair trust in couples, families, and friendships
- Stop repeating the same painful cycles
- Tell the difference between healthy repair, false repair, and limited repair
- Become safer, more trustworthy, and more emotionally workable in close relationships
For anyone who wants more than surface-level communication advice, R.E.A.L. Repair offers a compassionate and usable path toward deeper truth, stronger trust, and healthier connection.
The R.E.A.L. Framework
Four steps that work with the brain's threat response, not against it.
Repair requires a regulated nervous system. When the brain is in threat mode it cannot process nuance, access empathy, or take in new information. Regulate before you repair.
Examine the story your brain is creating beneath the conflict — the assumptions, predictions, and interpretations that drive your reactions.
Acknowledge the impact of your actions on the other person — without collapsing into shame or deflecting into defensiveness.
Lead with repair, not self-protection. Take the active step back toward connection, even when it feels vulnerable.